Tonight I had a member of my family tell me that my mother screwed me up, and that in turn I am doing the same to my daughter... well, aside that i bought a journal and while writing i had an epiphany.
I now understand what its like to have a little girl and to have no help, and to have the hard times to deal with alone, and to have a little girl who wants to fight you on everything, and ive learned to respect my mom for everything shes done. NO she may not have been perfect, but who is the perfect mother? I'd say the perfect mother would be someone who has nothing but time on their hands, money to buy everything that child needs and a husband who cares more about his kid than work or tv, or the bar.
No one is perfect and i dont care how my mother raised me because you know what? I didnt have sex when i was 14, i didnt do drugs, i didnt hang with the wrong people and yes i did my fair share of sneaking around, but who didnt?
I think in all of this ive learned to respect my mother more, especially since she raised 2 of us on her own. Thats admirable.
We dont always get along, but Ill never EVER blame her for my childs raising. Emmalie and I are close, and best friends, and if you want to blame my mom for that? Go ahead. That just means she did a DAMN good job.
Another point is that i was told that i was wrong for wanting "me time" but you know, i think every mother young or older deserves that. Time to read a book, clean house, sleep, or play freaking online games. Who cares? if you have family members that are willing to help you out thats because they LOVE YOU. If you're one of those people who have people who want to help you, its because they love you... make sure you let them know you love them too. You never know what tomorrow will bring as tomorrow isnt promised.
So. in conclusion, Everyone learns, and sometimes its the hard way... thats the way its always been for me, and sometimes its not that way for other people.... but, just take care of yourselves... life is too precious not to. :)
Thanks for reading, and MOM? I love you.
-xoxojess
A perfect mother is one that tells her child or children she loves them all day every day. A perfect mothers forgives any and all mistakes. A perfect mother kisses and hugs her little ones even after they were "bad". A perfect mother says goodnight every night, knowing she is protecting her babies with every thing she can... she is teaching them every thing she knows and is doing THE BEST SHE CAN WITH WHAT GODS GIVEN HER.
ReplyDelete:) Jessi you are a PERFECT mom, and so am I. We may get frustrated and yell or even scream at our littles some time, but they forgive us. Every time we say how proud we are, how much we love them... They see how perfect we are too <3
I agree! I love when i lay emmi down and she says "now i lay me down to sleep, i pray the lord my soul to keep, may angels watch me through the night and keep me in their blessed sight. Amen" makes me want to cry, and she learned that because i practiced it with her.
ReplyDeleteA good mom is someone who loves their child with every fiber of their being and i know my mom proved that when we were living in arizona and i begged to go back to illinois... she did that for me. she transfered jobs and moved us home.THAT is love... she moved to arizona for her, and moved back to illinois for me. THATS a damn good mom.
Love you.
Love you girl :) I am SO proud of you...
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